Want to build confidence in your speaking or performing?

These 5 principles worked wonders in a private coaching session with a successful businessman who had a serious fear of public speaking. But they will be helpful in any performance situation where you want to calm your fear and build confidence in yourself and what you are offering to your audience.
These tips will make even more sense if you first read his story here.
  1. Find a comfortable, stationary but not stiff, base body position. Let yourself stay there and experience that solid security as long as you want or need to. If you leave this position, return to it whenever you need to re-center yourself.
  2. Allow your hands to move only if they spontaneously want to. Eventually they will. Do not orchestrate hand gestures! At least not for now.
  3. Don’t be a “person giving a speech” – but be a person who genuinely wants us to know something. Release the “performance” and let us know what you want us to know. Don’t force it; let it happen.
  4. Imagine a receiver of your communication and speak to them genuinely. If having another person to talk to first helps, try that. Then expand your range of vision and the size of the imaginary audience to help you get used to the idea of speaking comfortably to more than one person at a time.
  5. Find your positive regard for your audience. People say “find a friendly face in the audience”. I say, more importantly, “find faces you feel friendly toward“. Those you think you might like if you knew them, or do like if you already know them. Imagine that you are offering your information or artistic performance as a genuine gift, just as you would offer a gift to someone you know, and want them to enjoy.

    I hope you find that these 5 strategies will begin to build confidence by allowing you to put your energy forward, emanating from a strong inner base and sharing with others from a positive state of generosity.

    It will allow you to focus completely on your intent and get ever closer to your solid, genuine freedom of expression.

    Try these suggestions and let me know how it goes. I would love to hear how else you have discovered to increase a sense of security, genuineness and build confidence in whatever form your performance takes.